Build Love Maps: How well do you know your partner’s inner psychological world, his or her history, worries, stresses, joys, and hopes?
Share Fondness and Admiration: The antidote for contempt, this level focuses on the amount of affection and respect within a relationship. (To strengthen fondness and admiration, express appreciation and respect.)
Turn Towards: State your needs, be aware of bids for connection and respond to (turn towards) them. The small moments of everyday life are actually the building blocks of relationship intimacy.
The Positive Perspective: Having a positive approach to problem-solving and the success of repair attempts.
Manage Conflict: We say “manage” conflict and not “resolve” conflict, because relationship conflict is natural and has functional, positive aspects. There is a critical difference in how we should handle perpetual problems and solvable problems.