I heard a story that Dr John Gottman didn’t set out at first to study marriages. He was, in fact, actively engaged in research of emotional and personality development in children in the 1970’s. So the story goes, he was getting frustrated that his experiments (with child subjects) kept getting disrupted by the marital discord […]
Stress is a normal part of daily life. In fact, the right amount of short-term stress can be of great benefit to your performance, even your enjoyment and satisfaction in life and work. Chronic stress, however, comes with a host of problems—some physical and some psychological. It can lead to disturbed sleep, low energy and […]
Few emotions have as much negative connotation as anger.
It’s often characterized as a sin, a character flaw or even an uncontrollable destructive force. You’ve been given the message, probably since childhood, that getting angry is bad. You should “rise above” it, or “don’t sweat the small stuff.”
So you stuff it down, suppress it, act like it isn’t there, and feel shame when it finally breaks free. Is anger ever a good thing?
There’s a simple mindfulness technique that can drive powerful change. Ever get in your car to drive somewhere, and end up driving to work (or home) instead? That is your pattern-recognizing brain at work. One of your brain’s primary jobs is to recognize patterns. It is very good at this job. It does this for […]
How do you tell the difference between normal relationship struggles, and those that need professional help? After all, every relationship has ups and downs. Every couple has arguments. You are on a marriage therapist’s website either because you feel dissatisfied in your relationship, or perhaps because you were sent here by your partner. So, maybe […]
